Sit with Pain

One of the worst things is knowing that you have dealt your relationship a sever blow - maybe even irreparable. Often it wasn't premeditated and said int he heat of the moment when all you hurts drew into one explosive point and you lashed out. We all know you can't take it back and it's pretty clear when you've cut this deep because your partner goes quiet - you have cut them to the core - past the place where anger protects them. You may almost feel sick knowing that you have not only hurt your partner in this way but also disappointed them deeply.

We all want to be there for our partners int he bad times. How do you deal with it when you are the bad time - some of us run - some of project and blame the other but what we need to do is sit with our pain. We need to understand that our partner won't be able to forget what's happened even if they forgive you. Once you have sincerely apologised the only thing you can do is sit with the pain that you have caused - show them that despite the pain inflicted you are big and strong enough to live with it's consequences.

A slip of the foot you may soon recover, but a slip of the tongue you may never get over. – Benjamin Franklin

We seek the comfort of another. Someone to share and share the life we choose. Someone to help us through the never-ending attempt to understand ourselves. And in the end, someone to comfort us along the way. - Marlin Finch Lupus

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. - Lao-Tzu